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Tips for New WWVA Parents

Tips for WWVA Parents

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Advice for New WWVA Parents

by Craig Kyle, Class of 2014

I have been asked to share some (hopefully) words of wisdom with you.

As a senior in high school, I have had plenty of time to think about how I have succeeded and failed in school. So my first tip is, parents, if you are nervous at all about your child going to high school; don’t show it. Because your child can only be in one of two circumstances; either they are not nervous or they are already nervous.

If your child is not nervous then they may become nervous when they see that you are. The fact is that your child has not been to high school yet and they don’t know what it’s like. They look up to you to try and see how they should feel about going to high school for the first time; and if they see you nervous then they will become nervous as well. It’s as simple as that. And of course, if your child is already nervous then adding more to it will not help any.

One of the realities of life is that life is always changing. The reason people are nervous about starting high school in the first place is that it’s a change. But being nervous is not the best way to go about change. Change should be taken slowly and calmly so that the person changing can take it all in and understand the change better. I recommend that you help your child and yourself find ways to take in these changes slowly and I guarantee it will help them be more successful in high school.

This is one advantage of going to WWVA; all Adventist schools have a similar atmosphere built around them. So while your school schedule may be different and your classes harder the way people generally think and interact remains the same. This allows students new to the higher levels of education to adapt easier.

My next tip is about success.

I will admit that I do not have a perfect formula to help make your child successful in high school, for everyone works differently. But I know one simple truth. If you child cares about school then they will succeed. They will succeed whether it shows right away on the grade report or not. If they do not care then they will fail at it. If your child gets consistently poor grades it’s not because their classes are too hard, it’s because they don’t care enough about it.

But be careful. It is easy to believe “my child has bad grades, therefore they do not care about school” and then be hard on them about that. That’s the natural response.  But controlling your child won’t make it better. You see, your child has to care about school on their own–for what school is–not because someone is forcing them to,  or because they are “bribed” to.

What I recommend is that you find for yourselves what way helps your child care about school. It may not work right away, but if you encourage your child to care about school by at least senior year, I consider that success.

If you send your child WWVA you don’t have to do it on your own. You see, in public schools the only reason kids can see for doing well in school is to make money. But in the higher levels of Adventist schooling, education and school becomes a moral and spiritual issue as well. And it shows. I can say that the atmosphere at WWVA is one where teachers and students alike have a general understanding that you should care about whatever it is you are asked to do. And that is really important. For caring about everything you put your hands to is a big step in maturity which will help them long-term.

Just as a final note; I know for a fact that if you can get your child to care about God, actually care about God, things like caring about school will fall into place. This should be your ultimate goal during this high school period. The four year span of high-school is a time for your child to discover who they really are, their traits, characteristics and personality.

But more importantly it’s a time for them to think about who they want to be in life as a person. Use this to your advantage; try to help grow the seedlings of a relationship with God in them. I believe this to be the greatest advantage of WWVA. No matter how spiritual your child is or wants to be: when you are at WWVA it feels like God is there. And because He is He will give them many opportunities to think seriously about spiritual matters. I can guarantee it.

But it will always be done slowly, for change is best taken patiently. 

 

About the author: Craig Kyle spent four years at WWVA and is a 2014 graduate. He was a class officer and graduated with honors and is attending Walla Walla University.